A few Sundays ago, our Society of Saint Vincent DePaul conference held our annual pork chop dinner fundraiser. It has become a popular event in our town and is well attended. We season the meat and grill the chops ourselves in the church parking lot. I am usually in charge of baking potatoes and running the drive-thru pick up area.
Just before our 11 AM Mass, a car pulled up and parked by the drive-thru which is behind the church in the alley. A young couple with a baby got out, said it was their first time here, and asked how to get into the church. It happened at one of our busier moments, but I welcomed them and directed them to the front of the church.
I watched for them when Mass was over, hoping to exchange pleasantries. The pork chop line was busy but I started to walk toward them as they were putting the baby in the car seat. Before I could approach, they hastily got into the car without making eye contact and drove off.
Later that evening, our priest called me and said he met a couple with a baby for our OCIA class. They expressed interest in becoming Catholic. He was surprised to learn I had already encountered them briefly that morning. He told me he gave them a parish registration form, told them to fill it out, and bring it back the following Sunday. He did not get their names or contact information.
Now three weeks later, they have yet to return. As the OCIA leader, I would have contacted them if I knew who they were. The form our priest handed them was not for the OCIA class. The form is for new parishioners. It asks for information about what sacraments have been received, what name to appear on offering envelopes, and what organizations they may be interested in joining. If the couple had never attended a Catholic mass before, they may have been overwhelmed.
That initial contact with anyone considering the Catholic faith is so important, whether it be in person or in a phone call. This is especially true if they are walking into a Catholic church for the first time not knowing what to expect. If their only experience has been at some non-denominational community, they are encountering something quite different. They may feel that they are being ignored. They see people kneeling, standing, and responding in unison. My fear is that this couple may have been intimidated and frightened off.
As Catholics, we are accustomed to seeing strangers at Mass. Catholics can attend Mass anyplace they happen to be. We also tend to focus on the Eucharistic presence in church more than the people around us. We remain quiet as to not disturb others who are praying. Unfamiliar faces may get a nod or a wave. Ideally. we should have greeters equipped to direct new inquirers if they appear at the door.
I have exhausted all my ideas in trying to locate the couple. I am giving it to the Holy Spirit hoping that he can lead them back to us. In the meantime, we need to do better, from our pastor on down, to make sure we are a welcoming parish. Who knows how many souls could be lost because we missed one opportunity to share our faith?